Love

He Said / She Said – Dating More than 1 Person

He Said

How many of you can juggle eggs, raise your hand. I didn’t think so. Juggling is a skill that is acquired through tremendous amounts of practice, practice, some broken stuff and more practice. So if you think you can date more than one person at a time without breaking stuff, you my friend are a professional.

In my past dating life, I tried online dating three separate times. Each time I realized how much work it was and how much fun it wasn’t. Deciphering that SassyPants123 was Lisa and SizzleNShake69 was Stacey on a piece of paper, then trying to get to know them via emails, private messages, texts and finally the approved phone call was almost a full-time job in itself. Call me old fashioned but I am more of an exclusive, one woman at a time kinda guy. Maybe there isn’t enough of an honest version of me to go around so I knew I would never be able to pull it off.

How do you become fully invested in two or more people at the same time? Ideally, whoever you are with should get all of your attention and not be thinking about someone else as backup in case your evening ends early. Some of you may be saying well I think of Steve when I’m with Steve and Sean when I’m with Sean, problem solved. Not so fast my friend. Did you declare that you are not exclusive? Do Steve and Sean know about each other? After all, as we all learned from Ghost Busters, crossing streams or swords in this case is bad!

Seeing two or more people at one time takes real talent, juggling talent. Concentration, skill and sleight of hand are required to pull it off. It may seem fun for a while but unless you aren’t looking for anything more than a good time, it will get tiresome. Juggling is a lot like life in that what goes around comes around. If you are not careful, one wrong move can cause all your objects (of affection) to fall and become broken pieces of hearts and emotions or you just may come to find that someone has been juggling you and you will be the one left with egg on your face!

She Said

Some wives don’t mind if their husbands have girlfriends; I am NOT one of those wives. I am no good at sharing.  Not my food, not my drink and definitely not my man.  I have never understood the habitual serial dater.  Where on any given night you could go out with a myriad of men.  There’s the one they keep for chatting and bringing to family functions, then the one for hot sex and just quickies, then there’s the one you go to shows and dinners and cultural things that the others may not appreciate or even understand.  I would prefer that all of these men be the same person.

I am exhausted just being able to give my time and attention to one person, let alone have room in my life for going through the motions and questions of learning about more than one person at a time.  I don’t see the appeal in it.  I see nothing fun or exciting about asking all the same questions: what’s your favorite color, have you been married, what’s your life story.  To tell you the God’s honest truth, I barely care about the one person’s favorite color let alone three or four people’s favorite color.

I guess I feel that if I date someone, I want to give them my undivided attention.  I’m a single mom, working a full time job and I want to give my time and attention to someone who really deserves it.  My time is precious, my heart is huge and if you get it, you better believe that you are the only one having it.  I’m not spreading it around, I’m not dealing it out little by little to you than to someone else and seeing who is better at handling it.  If you want to be with me, then as I always say, I’m all or nothing.  If you want to “date” a bunch of chicks, don’t put me in your phone or on your Facebook page or anywhere else for that matter.

I’m a one guy kind of girl and if you want to be with me you have to be a one girl kind of guy.  Period.  Seems easy enough

Dating more than 1 person

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