An Apology To My Self

Dear Self, I know you are tired and weary.  I know that life has not been everything you had hoped or wished, for you or for those you have loved and currently love.  Life is tough. I should have been more forthcoming with that information many years ago.  I should have let you know that… Continue reading An Apology To My Self



We are all responsible for our own behavior.  No matter how much we want how we act, to be someone else’s fault.  No one can make us do anything.  We are in control of ourselves; or are we?   If I make you happy, you respond with kindness right?  If I make you mad, you respond… Continue reading Accountability


Believe In The Good Too

I find it interesting at a certain age how much easier it is to believe that bad than it is to believe the good.  Specifically in relationships.  We start out all innocent and sweet hoping and praying for that special person to “fall” for us.  When they finally say they love us, there’s a part… Continue reading Believe In The Good Too


The Top 10 Things I’d Tell a New Ex-Wife

There is a lot of things one has to consider after a divorce is final.  From where to live, what the kids schedule is and what you will do for work and money.  Beyond that there is the inevitable acknowledgement that at some point in time your ex-husband will be involved with another woman. Hopefully… Continue reading The Top 10 Things I’d Tell a New Ex-Wife


7, 3, 2, Both

I have said the this statement more times in my life than I’d care to admit.  It is part of my legacy, my history and basically now has become part of me.  I wish it wasn’t true, but it is and as incredible as it sounds, in some way it’s worth it and in some… Continue reading 7, 3, 2, Both


I Used to be a Teenage Girl

Dear Teenage Girls, I hope this letter finds you  well, but I am sure it’s found in the midst of some teenage angst.  I’m sure you will think me naïve and a little out dated, but truth be told I too was once a teenage girl.  I went through the same hormones as you, I’ve experienced… Continue reading I Used to be a Teenage Girl


Leftovers – The Capital Letters

My NEW page debuts right now!  Leftovers – All things AccidentallyAllison that have nothing to do with my normal storyline and everything to do with what’s Leftover in my head.  Each Leftover Post will be logged on my Leftover page so you can follow along with idiosyncrasies that affect my every day life.  Best part?  I want to hear what you think on each and every topic, so feel free to tell me how you feel! 

I believe there is an etiquette that should be followed under most circumstances.   A professionalism that is an unwritten law with rules and regulations. This is proven in the work place, but should be adhered to under most if no all circumstances.  I mean seriously, as an adult there is no need to use capital letters in an email especially when we are talking A) About work B) about my child or 3) about anything having to do with me and how I adult.  I find myself to be a pretty intelligent person and can hear the inference in your tone even through text and email, I don’t need the added enunciation of the capital letter to make me aware that you are frustrated.

The capital letters in any form of communication, unless you are expressing your utter excitement or appreciation for me, should be frowned upon.  It only insights the individual, in this case me, to then become frustrated and most likely say something snarky.  I will not use capital letters or bold face a type, ever, unless I want to ensure it is an actionable item that you must remember to do and the entire group, if there is more than one person on the email, needs to be aware of.  In that instance, the bold face or capital letter is for emphasis on the action item, not to point out that you, or me, the reader is an idiot and you, the writer are upset.

In a business situation, pick up the phone and do your daily adulating.  Approach the subject with some tact and an upbeat tone.  You can get more bees with honey they say and not vinegar and I will attest to this.  Nothing says, I have no professional skills of engagement like capital letters and bold face type in an effort to make the other person feel stupid.  I prefer to use the age old tactic of passive aggressive, niceties as do most corporate business officials in getting what they want and giving the other person enough rope to hang themselves.  It takes much less effort and I, the writer of such an email doesn’t have to point out the readers inadequacies, because they will come to light all on their own.

This is an art you have to cultivate over time, something you have to hone in your years of working with incompetent people.  You smile and wave my friends…..smile and wave.

Tell me your thoughts?  Are you a Capital Latter / Bold Face communicator?

The Capital Letter